To Do or Not To Do

I just read an article today about a guy who had just stepped in the most important crossroads of his life. He just gotten a girl pregnant. The sad thing is that she is not his official girlfriend. Naturally, the guy is confused. Does he have to marry her even if he's not truly in loved with her? or will he just support the baby without marrying its mother? If he choose the second option, he thinks he just have saved the three of them from a lifetime but loveless commitment. So, I guess he's now off for the latter option.

These have bothered me a lot. So what must be done? At least, what's the right way? I believe, it's the right thing to marry the girl and give the baby a name and complete family. But, the biggest dilemma is what if the marriage will not work? What if marrying each other is the last thing that should be done? Is love a skill that can be developed? Or can it be learned? Why did the physical relationship that has lead to conception of the child happen anyway?

As for me, if the couple is not really sure of their feelings, they should not marry. If they have committed a mistake by involving to a physical relationship and betraying the guy's girlfriend, they have left with no choice but to bear the consequences of their actions. But marrying each other for the sake of the baby and no other else is definitely not the answer. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It means when two individuals commit with each other and make it known to the world, there's no turning back. Even, if annulment and divorce are allowed by man, their union is irrevocable in God's presence. If they can be sure that they can give their baby and their future home the love that they deserve, then, they should marry. But if they are uncertain, then, they should refrain from having a loveless home. All they must do is to give the baby the support and the love it needs even with their separate lives.

Its just so sad that it happened. However, it isn't the end of the world for the two of them. Their future definitely lies on the intelligent decision that they will coming up today. I just wish they will choose what's best for all of them.    

A Mother's Love

I just spent my afternoon yesterday watching a drama anthology thru The Filipino Channel . For Filipinos, it is popularly known as "Maalaala Mo Kaya" or MMK. It is a very well known program that features real life stories of people from all walks of life and has been on air for more than a decade.

Actually, the episode which was entitled "Regalo" (or Gift in English) was already aired in the past but I only had the chance of seeing it yesterday. The story was mainly focused on  the mother's effort and struggle to train and guide her child with cerebral palsy. I was really touched by the story for it mainly features the unfailing love of parents, particularly of a mother despite of all the discouraging circumstances. The child's condition which had caused her physical disability didn't discourage the mother to stop on dreaming and struggling to give her child a normal life. For me, the story as a whole, have justified the greatness of motherhood.  

Our Mother's love is indeed lasting and unconditional. It often exceeds other kinds of love for it originated from the oneness of a mother and her child in her own womb. It is the kind that sacrifices and even gives all that it has. Others may not even understand it at all, but it is often appreciated by those who have actual experiences. And as for me, I always find it amazing. Our Mothers actually deserve the highest regards among all other professions that have existed.

Nostalgia

These past days, I have been feeling restless and bored. Maybe, I just miss home. And my job too. I just miss having to wake up everyday for work. It's been a while since I was last employed and I still don't forget the feeling of having something to do that's fulfilling, at least, professionally. Actually, the very reason why I resigned has something to do with my personal life. It's a matter of priority as it was my choice. But in times like this, when I just have to stay in the house all day long, I couldn't help feeling nostalgic.

It's a bad thing that I couldn't apply for any job here. I just need to abide with the conditions of my visa. And I would jeopardize my husband's job if I insist getting a job.

I'll just have to wait for my time so I can work again. If it's not here, I know, it will be in a right place and time. For now, all I can do is be a supportive housewife.

I just wish we can have some time to unwind and relax. Maybe, if hubby can find time, we can go to the mall, since here, its the usual place to spend free time. I hope its already weekend.

 

Happy Valentine's Day

I just can't help feeling more nostalgic because I know today is Valentine's Day and I couldn't see any traces of celebration in the surroundings. At least, I have my husband and my friends here with me. It's makes me less lonely. 

Thanks to our TFC here in Riyadh, I do have the window to the Philippines. At least we're able to know the latest news in the country. In fact, it's good to know that love is basically in the air. As usual, people are busy with various activities for Valentine's Day. Businesses are busy with their promos to attract more customers. Everybody is off for the celebration.

Thanks also to the modern technology. I'm able to reach and send greetings to all my love ones in different parts of the world. With just one click and a couple of seconds, my thoughts can reach them.

To all who are loved, who love, and in love, may love continues to show us its power and magic. Happy Valentine's Day!

Friends Forever

I just couldn't let this love month pass without making a post about these people who are very close to my heart. To be precise, these people were just classmates then. To me, they were just friends who were seen at school and didn't play important roles in my life at all.These has all changed because of a particular incident that happened way back on a sunny and busy day of February, 16 years ago.

I remembered that we didn't have any class that day so we agreed to enjoy by doing something that has violated the school's regulations. That harmless but mischievous action that we did that had been reprimanded by our teachers was actually a blessing in disguise. Until now, I'm forever grateful that it happened because it led us to form a bond that as strong as bonds between sisters.
I believe our friendship has started when we discovered that we have indeed many things in common. From then, we found activities that we all enjoyed and learned what we have to offer for each other - trust, loyalty, love and respect. Until now, I believe these values made us last this long.

Years have passed and we now have our own careers and families. And its good that we still find ways to be able to catch up with each others' lives. If we can find time, we always try to get together and renew our friendship.

We also have our share of misunderstandings and arguments. But thanks God, we always managed to resolve them as soon as possible.

For Melody, Catherine, Emma, Charmelyn, Emelie and Emalyn, I know we'll endure any trials that may come and test the strength of our bond. I just know we can because we have been already tested through time and space and we still survived. Happy 16th year of sisterhood and friendship. Friends forever.